Our fear of bringing secrets and sin into the light, however, drives many people to prefer the illusion that if they don’t think about it, it somehow goes away. It doesn’t. Unhealed wounds open us up to habitual sin against God and against others.
… even the worst and most painful family experiences are part of our total identity. God had a plan in placing us in our particular families and cultures. And the more we know about our families, the more we know about ourselves – and the more freedom we have to make decisions how we want to live. We can say: “This is what I want to keep. This is what I do not want to bring with me into the next generation.”
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazzero, p 109.
There is a pervasive form of contemporary violence . . . activism and overwork. The rush and pressure of modern life are a form, perhaps the most common form, of its innate violence. To allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands, to commit oneself to too many projects, to want to help everyone in everything, is to succumb to violence. . . . It kills the root of inner wisdom which makes work fruitful.
Conjectures of a Guilty Bystander, Thomas Merton, quoted in Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazzero, p 173.
Ignoring our emotions is turning our back on reality. Listening to our emotions ushers us into reality. And reality is where we meet God… Emotions are the language of the soul. They are the cry that gives the heart a voice . . . . However, we often turn a deaf ear – through emotional denial, distortion, or disengagement. We strain out anything disturbing j order to gain tenuous control of our inner world. We are frightened and ashamed of what leaks into our consciousness. In neglecting our intense emotions, we are false to ourselves and lose a wonderful opportunity to know God. We forget that change comes through brutal honesty and vulnerability before God.
The Cry of the Soul, Dan Allender and Tremper Longman, quoted in Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazzero, p 71.